We carry inside of us a deep-rooted desire to feel loved. When we feel loved, we feel like we belong; and we feel complete and whole. Our sense of separation and aloneness starts at birth. It’s our memory of belonging to something larger than ourselves as an energetic being—as part of the Whole, the Universe, God—that drives our search for completion again.
Through our relationships, we learn about ourselves and the world around us. The other person can be a mirror in which we see ourselves reflected. This is true for all relationships, romantic and otherwise. Through connection with others, we find some of the belonging we yearn for. Some connections we make with others are based on mutual interests, similarities, and understandings, yet often, we develop deep friendships with those who are seemingly completely different from us.